Teachers can be “faulty” too sometimes!

I didn’t intend to make a big fuss out of an incident that happened to my daughter last year.  Unfortunately, the teacher involved do not seem to take the “forgive and forget” approach.  I feel so disappointed and irritated at the same time.  Every time, since the incident, whenever I came across her in school, I would smile at her out of my respect to her for being a teacher to my son (when he was in Std 1) and also my daughter.  Plus I just want to forget about the whole thing.  This morning, we bumped into each other again.  This time at the stairs.  Again, I smiled at her.  And guess what?  She looked away and just walked down the stairs!  What the ?  She’s been doing that ever since the incident.  She should be thankful that as parents we didn’t confront her or the headmistress for her reaction towards my daughter.  She should be VERY VERY VERY thankful!  Other parents would have made so much noise if it had happened to their children!  The posting below was made “private”.  But now, what the heck!  I’ll just re-post it here, of course, with the name deleted (still out of the remaining respect I have for her).  But whoever reads this posting would be able to tell which school and who she is since there’re not many English teachers in the school.  Hopefully, teachers would be more careful and have some respect for parents.  We don’t meddle with how the teachers educate our kids in school, so we hope the teachers don’t meddle with the way we want to raise our kids!!!!!

p.s.:  as a result of the incident, some of Syaima’s classmates became nasty towards her, pulled her tudung and accused her for making the class lose in the competition.  The class got 2nd place and according to them, they would have won 1st place if not for her wearing the tudung.  Wouldn’t a parent’s heart break to pieces if his/her child received such treatment?  *sighhh*

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Today is the nastiest day in her schooling history for Syaima’.  Mana taknya, Pn. X scolded her in front of all her friends in class, accusing her of making up stories sampai pergi jumpa Guru Besar lagi.

Well… to cut the story short, the whole thing was like this.

Syaima’ is one of those participating in a group singing contest to be held this coming Thursday.  So, Pn. X mintak Syaima’ bukak tudung for that day because nak pakai ribbon, etc.  Syaima’ who’s so excited to participate but at the same time worried that Pn. X will be upset at her for keeping the tudung on, voiced out her concerns to me on the way back home yesterday.  I conveyed the whole thing to my hubby.

This morning, instead of sending a letter to Pn. X (sebab kertas abis kat taman tun, plus tak sempat nak karang surat tu), my hubby went straight to the office to meet up with the headmistress.  After all, he said he has already called up the HM months ago about this matter and why is it that the issue is still there?  Plus if we were not mistaken, there’s a circular that states that all dealings related to school children and teachers must be done at the school office.

So, most likely Pn. X was called to the office and probably the message that was conveyed earlier to the Pen Kanan  (since the headmistress wasn’t around then) was relayed in a different tone to Pn. X.  Otherwise, why would she be so upset?  My hubby did praise her for being a very hard working teacher and that we respect her so much.  And my hubby didn’t even raise his voice or sounded upset when he spoke to the Pen Kanan.

As a mother, I am very sad.  I can just imagine how Syaima’ must have felt when Pn. X scolded her.  It must be very terrifying for her.  Pn. X siap took her out of the group and started to find a replacement.  Unfortunately, tak dapat carik replacement, so Syaima’ is back in.  It must have been such a nightmare for my daughter who has never created any problems in school, what more to make up stories.  *sighhh*

I can just pray to Allah to give her the strength and courage to sit in Pn. X’s class for the days or maybe years to come.  May Allah protect her from unfounded accusations by her teachers and friends at school.  She’s such a sweet and soft spoken girl.  It’s just unthinkable for someone to be so nasty and harsh towards her.  =`(

(posted on 3rd November, 2009)

Oh life…

Wowwww!!  I’ve not been blogging for moons!  The last time I blogged was before the school holidays and now we are going into the second week of school.  Have I been THAT busy?  Hmmm…. probably.  In fact, the days during the school holidays had been more hectic than during the school term.  Busy with the never-ending house chores… ooh.. ohhhh… I’ve to take five here… the radio station is playing my fave song by Michael Buble – Haven’t met you yet..  Just looooooveee the song!!

Ok… that’s over… so, where was I?  Oh yes.  About the school holidays.  It didn’t come close to what I can call a holiday for me  But I did try to make the best out of it by doing things that I enjoyed  doing.  One of them was making cupcakes and doughnuts!  Yup!  Managed to make them several times throughout the holiday.  And there’s Facebook to keep me company.  Thank God for this social networking utility, I can still be in touch with friends wherever they are.

So, this year my eldest is in Year 5, my second in Year 3 and my youngest in Year 2.  How time flies!  Next year will be the first big exam for my son.  And my second.. oh how she’s grown up now.  She’s grown as tall as her brother.  Even her shoes are slightly bigger than her brother’s.  Soon.. all of them will leave the primary school…  *sighhh*

Oh well… that’s life.  We were once their age.  And now we are our parents.   For all the sacrifices that we make, I only hope they all grow up to be good people and I will always pray for their success.

Shumayl’s 10th Birthday Bash

Last Sunday wasn’t exactly Shumayl’s birthday.  His birthday is the previous Sunday but since there were so many things going on we decided to hold the birthday party last Sunday.  I was worried at first that his friends would not turn up because only 3 responded to the invitation sent.  Much to my surprise all his friends whom he invited came except for one.  Phewww!!!

 

And since Shumayl is, lately, so into football, I thought it would be cool to have  a “football” theme for his birthday.  So, I requested everyone to wear either a football jersey or t-shirt.  Even Atuk came in his football jersey!  So, we had Chelsea, Man U, Arsenal and Liverpool… all under one roof!  =)

 

It was all fun!  We had a great time and my daughter has started talking about having her birthday, also at McD!  =)

 

Below are some photos from my own camera.  I’ll upload more pics when I get them from the official photographer, Cikimiki, sponsored by PrettyPeektures. =)  Thanks, AyahCik!!!  ;)

 

Malam Akhirussanah 2009 – 13 November 2009

Actually… I’ve been trying to complete this particular entry for several nights now.  Every time, I can only manage a few lines before I find myself dozing off.  Hmmm….

 

ANYWAY… These past few days have been quite hectic.  Last Friday was Malam Akhirussanah 2009 for Sekolah Rendah Agama and Tadika Islam TTDI.  The event was a success, in fact we heard comments from guests that it was better than the year before.  Alhamdulillah.

 

As for my daughter… well… we broke the news to her.  She cried a bit but my hubby and I gave encouraging words and advices.  Before long, she became her bubbly self again.  =)

 

Below are the photos of my eldest who got no. 2 in his class and my youngest who got no. 3.

How do I break this news to my little girl?

Just got back from the final meeting on Malam Akhirussanah 2009 preparation.  The event will be held this Friday and I’m in-charged of the program book.  I was yet to receive information from Sekolah Rendah Agama (SRA) and to tell you the truth,  I was beginning to feel nervous (because last year i was still printing and compiling the pages at 3 a.m. on the day itself!)

Anyway, at the meeting I received several lists from SRA including the lists of those who obtained no. 1, 2 and 3 in the final exam.  I went through the lists – Syifa got no 3 in her class… Shumayl got no 2 in his class… I continued to search for Syaima’s name… alas, her name’s not listed.  Oh dear.  How am I going to break this news to her?  I’m sure she’ll be devastated and I’m definitely sure she’ll immediately break down in tears tomorrow.  She’s the most hardworking one as compared to the other two, and this fact makes me feel more sad that she didn’t manage to get anything, not even the best student in any of the various subjects.

I really do not want to break my girl’s heart but I don’t think I have any other choice, do I?  Tomorrow afternoon, Syifa’ and Shumayl will have to go to the community hall for rehearsal.  And Syaima’ would have to stay at home at my parents’.  *sigghhhh*.  Tak pe lah Cemak.  Masih belum ada rezeki Cemak.  I just want you to continue fighting!  I am sure you will be up there soon!  So, don’t you ever EVER give up, tau! *hugggssss* =)

My latest mission! =)

I’ve been into making my own donuts lately.  My first ever attempt in making these donuts was last Saturday.  With my mom’s help, alhamdulillah, I succeeded in making these …

Today’s my second attempt.  Hehe.  I wanted to perfect the donuts.  After 3 hours in the kitchen, these are the outcomes …

with almond bits.. =)

sprinkled with chocolate rice

my kids fave – sprinkled with crunched oreo!

Terima kasih, ustazah2!

Semalam kami sekeluarga dijemput oleh ustazah2 Tadika Islam TTDI untuk menghadiri kenduri kesyukuran serta majlis perpisahan di Tadika.  Kata ketua guru, Ustazah Fadzilah, ini merupakan kali terakhir untuk kami makan bersama-sama memandangkan kesemua 6 ustazah yang mengajar di tadika tersebut akan berpindah ke tadika lain tahun hadapan.  Ramai juga yang hadir termasuklah semua ahli Lembaga Pengurus Sekolah Agama dan juga beberapa AJK lama dan baru.

Saya hanya ingin merakamkan jutaan terima kasih kepada semua ustazah2 kerana telah mendidik anak2 saya.  Syifa’ telah memulakan alam persekolahannya dengan memasuki tadika sejak dia berumur 4 tahun.  Syaima’ telah dipilih oleh ustazah untuk menjalani rakaman Program Mari Mengaji TV9 musim pertama.  Shumayl pula telah mendapat peluang menyertai Ihtifal Zon Bangsar 2005 dan sekarang dia boleh mengaji Al-Quran dengan lancar.  Semuanya berkat didikan semua ustazah2 di Tadika Islam TTDI.  Semoga Allah membalas semua jasa ustazah2.

Gambar kenang-kenangan bersama ustazah2 dan kakitangan tadika

Where am I heading after this?

Praise to Allah, I’ve presented my paper at the “International Conference on Waqf Laws & Management – Reality and Prospects” last Tuesday, 20th October, 2009.  I was the 2nd presenter in the afternoon session on that first day of the conference.  This was my very first time presenting at a conference, and an international one for that matter.  So, I was very nervous the day before and in the morning, but again.. alhamdulillah, when my time came to go to the podium, I was less nervous although I was a bit intimidated with the presence of all the distinguished scholars and experts on waqf.  I couldn’t recall if Dr. Monzer Kahf was around when I presented but he’s one of the keynote speakers in this conference.

 

There were no questions from the participants but I did receive 2 comments which I really appreciate and would use those feedback to improvise my final research paper.  Anyway, after the 3-day conference (I had to skip the first half of the 2nd day, which I was later told that Dr. Monzer’s keynote speech was very good), I began to realize that this issue on waqf is not something small and petty like what most of us think it is.  Waqf is a vital tool for us to uplift the economic and the social conditions of the societies, especially the Muslims.  Unfortunately, today most of us only see waqf as a charitable act for religious purposes only.  What we do not realize is that the waqf institution has the potential to generate billions of dollars in income, which would definitely help many nations get out of poverty.  And interestingly, which not many realize it, waqf can also benefit the non-Muslims, i.e. the non-Muslims can also be the beneficiaries of waqf.  Isn’t Islam beautiful?

 

There are many many issues surrounding waqf such as lack of public understanding and awareness, mismanagement, accounting, legal, etc.  When the conference ended yesterday, I’m even more determined to go further into waqf.  Most probably, IF I do proceed with my PhD, my research would also focus on waqf.  And I look forward to participate in more waqf conferences in the future.  I am so thankful that my supervisor managed to convince me to participate in this conference.  It has opened up my eyes and I hope I’ll be able to contribute more in this area, insyaAllah.

“Lovely Lady”

I took this “Which type of woman are you?” quiz in Facebook and the result was “Lovely Lady”:

You are lovely and caring. You help others and spread out a lot of sympathy. Your life aim might be to serve the people. But your weakness is that you forget about yourself, your own needs. All your time is hold back for your friends and family. You are always there for people in trouble. Ready for any emergency. You make a lot of sacrifices just to be a good human. But every woman has her needs, her longings and a destiny. Don’t loose yourself in work or curing other people’s souls. You will have your own problems in your life. Another problem is that you don’t say your opinion when it’s right and important to say it. People trample onto your soul if you are always so kind and lovely and helpful. They will play on you. Though you should try to relax more and enjoy your life, you should not loose the gift that was given to you to help others . Not everyone is created this way… You are unique and rare!

Oh wow!  Somehow there’s some truth in what’s being said.  I, at times, just can’t say “No” to people.   I want to be useful to others.  I want to be accepted by all around me.  And yes, to the extent of sacrificing a lot – time, money, even my own happiness!

I guess that’s why I am frequently stressed out.  Depressed.  Most of the time, I just swallow the pain.  And when the pain’s too much, I tend to become quiet and I would crave for space, my own space for me to do the things that I like doing.  Whether I do finally get the space, is a different story.  Unfortunately, not many would understand my longings.  At the end of the day, I would crawl out from the depression on my own and start to work hard to please all those around me… again… ignoring my own wants and needs.

Well… lovely lady…. you have just understood about yourself!

me? conference? huhuhuuuu…..

Just finished cooking.  For dinner.  Simple stuff.  Fried rice.  The kids don’t eat much, especially at night, so why should I go through the hassle of preparing something fancy, right?

Anyway, I just submitted my conference paper to my Sudanese (I think) supervisor for him to go through yesterday morning.  Another heavy load off my shoulder, at least for a few days.  The conference will be held from 20th Oct to 22nd Oct.  I’m not sure when my slot would be but I have a feeling that I’ll be so very nervous regardless of the date.  My supervisor assured me that he’ll be there to give me a hand if I faced difficulties in answering questions from the participants, but still… *yikes!*

Nevertheless, I’m also excited.  Didn’t expect to present in any conference… at least not now.  It’s all a coincidence.  I took up research for this final semester and coincidentally, the area of my research is also the topic of the conference.  My supervisor managed to convince me to take up the challenge.  And everything else is history.

Now I’m counting the days.  How would they find my paper?  Would my paper add any new, valuable finding to the inventory of knowledge that the participants already have?  What if I can’t answer their questions?  Oh my… I hope I can maintain my coolness and confidence in front of all those waqf experts.

*sighhh* Will write more later.  Am going to have my dinner now.